Blogging Tulsa Real Estate: Are You Focused on What Really Matters

Are You Focused on What Really Matters

To these ideas of Bernice Ross I would add exercises that I believe originally came out of What Color is Your Parachute.  A career counselor first asked me these questions thirty years ago.

  1. List 5 accomplishments in your life about which you are the most proud?
  2. What did you do to make them happen?
  3. What about doing them made you feel really good?

Then I would ask:

What do you really want?

by Bernice Ross

It’s 2010. Chances are you made some New Year’s Resolutions [last January]. A good question to ask is, “Are you paying attention to what really matters?” To determine what matters most in your life, answer the three following questions:

  1. Name the three most memorable events in your life.
  2. Name the five most important people in your life.
  3. Name three things you wish you had more time to do.
  4. Name three people you would like to spend more time with (and include the activity where you would be together.)

Did any of these include work? If you’re like most people, probably not. Unfortunately, our society often portrays being a “workaholic” as something noble—”The market is really tough. I have to 16 hours a day if we’re going to succeed!” “We both have to work—the kids would be stuck in a lousy apartment and a lousy school if we don’t!” “My clients need me—I have to be available when they call.”

If you look back on your past, chances are pretty good that your most precious memories are not of work—they’re of times spent doing special things with those you love or times you’ve taken time for you. So the next time you’re considering missing time with loved ones to stay at work or putting off caring for yourself because work is more important, remember what matters.

Bernice Ross is a member of the Broker Agent Speakers Bureau which is a full service Speakers Bureau serving the real estate and financial industry. To learn more about Bernice, view her bio or visit


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Comment balloon 3 commentsDebbie Durkee • November 19 2010 04:29AM


Thank you Debbie... this is great food for thought.  I'll try to remember that.
after all, it's 5 a.m. and I'm still at work - it's crazy - I know!  I will take your
advise and start paying more attention to what really matters. 

Posted by Dagmar Sands, International Real Estate Agent, CIPS, FIPC, ABR (Real Estate International, Inc.) over 9 years ago

You can balance work, family, life. You need both to provide what a family needs...not just wants.

Posted by Andrew Mooers | 207.532.6573, Northern Maine Real Estate-Aroostook County Broker (MOOERS REALTY) over 9 years ago


It's trying to figure out what matters that is so hard!



You're right, there are so many claims on us.

Posted by Debbie Durkee, ALC, CRS -- Land & Country Estates near Tulsa (RE/MAX T-town) over 9 years ago